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Ambaaargh

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What can I say? Is it surprising? Is it not? I’m not entirely sure at times myself.

Goodness knows I tend to keep a low profile about my life that it may be a surprise to some.I wish I could say it’s easy and I’m all chill casual about mentioning this on the comic…but frankly, I’m an anxious ball of stress and anxiety most days and since starting this arch I’ve actually been too scared to even check my emails out of worry of what may be lurking in there. So needless to say it may be a couple weeks before I get my big kid nerves back to look in there after all this. Because…I understand that for some it’s not their cup of tea.  And I certainly did not want to come across as if I was being preachy or soap-boxy.

My main goal as a comic maker has always been to to to bring something enjoyable into the world. Be it a funny comic to help in the hard times, or something that helps people be inspired to create their own things. To be able to say I helped a single person have a better day or helped them in a dark patch of their lives is probably the greatest accomplishment I can ever list.

And the final reason I did this mini-arc is because I suppose it meant enough to me to not only show the characters in the comic but also in a way say that there is me. A tiny human creature, flawed and likely going to make many mistakes as I trundle along. But…it is me. And you are you.

And that’s all that any of us can sometimes ask for.

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Another straight passing ace here, and I have loved your comic for a long time, this makes me love it even more. Thank you for being brave enough to share this, I well understand the temptation to just stay quiet and let people assume what they will.

“My main goal as a comic maker has always been to to to bring something enjoyable into the world.” You have brought something Extremely Enjoyable into the world.
“To be able to say I helped a single person have a better day … is probably the greatest accomplishment I can ever list.” Your comics always help me to have a better day.

I won’t pretend to understand your or anyone else’s identity issues. I’ve always known and enjoyed exactly who and what I am. BUT I can try to empathize with and support you.
No One is broken or wrong for not fitting into any specific category. In the end everyone is a “snowflake” because no one is 100% identical (not even twins). We all exist as a vast spectrum of Colors, Genders, Pronouns, Sizes, Affiliations, ETC. No one can be boxed up and labeled with a single encompassing label.

Please continue to be YOU and be true to yourself. AND know that you are a highly talented Artist who has brought me quite a bit of enjoyment and laughter.

Amber you are awesome! Keep being you and keep doing what you want to do.

I’m not sure what label fits me nor do I really care, so I try to apply that to everyone else. A person is a person no matter how they choose to be or how they define themselves.

We all bleed the same Hemoglobin and have the (mostly) same dna and that is good enough for me.

I’m beginning to think I might be ace myself, sex doesn’t really excite me, so much as just snuggling with the guy I love. It’s because of people like you, certain of where you stand, sharing their lack of sexuality that I’m even aware that’s a thing, that I’m aware it’s not just a sickness or depression, but just a thing that I might not be attracted to in the same way some people don’t enjoy certain body types, whether it be gender or general shape.

Ambaaargh, I am a furry sapio-sexual here. Congrats on the courage for stating what and who you are. Any idiot who tries to say you are not “real” needs to pull their head out of the sand and realize that many people don’t make a big deal about WHAT they are as much as WHO they are. You are an awesome person who has brought to life a comic that makes me smile quite often. I honestly look forward to reading the next comic every week and have loved how you have built it and fleshed out the personalities of the characters over the years. I usually stay quiet and hide near the wall so the rest of the world does not notice the odd mind who thinks differently. Your words moved me to come forward to write this. Thank you for being awesome, and please continue to do so…

You rock.

I may not be agender, but I know what it’s like to be a married asexual, and yeah, it does involve a lot of people saying stuff like “That’s not a real thing,” or “You must have something medically wrong with you,” or “I thought you were straight.” I think I only figured out my identity when I was 27-ish, and that was thanks to the internet. Until around that time, I didn’t know asexuality was a thing. I was mistaking a lot of my non-sexual feelings for sexual attraction because I didn’t know it was even possible to not experience attraction. If I had known asexuality was a thing in my teenage years, I probably would have made some much better life decisions! I never heard about aces from Pride or any of my LGBT+ friends. We’ve been invisible for a long time. And I hope that, by us coming out and saying who we are, other people can find out who they are and that they aren’t alone… And maybe we can spare some people some grief.

Love and hugs to you! (Unless you are non-huggy, in which case love and respectful non-touchy to you). This semi-closeted aro ace enby would like to thank you for a) this little pride arc, b) sharing your own truth with us, and c) making this comic in the first place. I have been reading DMFA for over a decade now, and it continues to be wonderful. Having relatable and highly likeable queer characters in the cast has been brilliant and I have loved these little extra insights and confirmations about various characters this month. Thank you for what you do. <3

Congratulations! Both on coming out and on discovering those aspects of yourself. I think Ace/Nonbinary can be a tricky combo in the “help I’m trying to figure out how I work but I don’t have the words for it” department, not that I think other queer identities are “easier” in any way! (I do not think that. To be clear.) I came out as asexual as a teenager, and while it was a huge relief to me, the ongoing chorus of “that hardly counts, why are you here” meant I was afraid to even THINK about figuring out my gender situation. I hated being presumed as my assigned sex, but had internalized a lot of fear that I was an interloper in other peoples’ space and didn’t want to upset the “legit” Trans folks. It wasn’t until I was 28 that I got fed up and started researching gender identities, and much, much later that I felt “allowed” to say I was Trans.
Also not having a sexual preference AND being on the NB spectrum made gender a bit of a slippery concept to grasp in the first place lmao.

Thanks for sharing your story, and have a great Pride<3

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